Mike Caro recently posted on his website an article he wrote some time ago for Card Player magazine. In it he opines that everything we do in life is a gamble of sorts.
Cause poker does not guarantee you the money like your job does. But if that's what you really want then you need to work for this to happen as well. Playing poker for living is easier to be said. Poker for a living and staking. Over the recent years, there's been more and more high roller tournaments popping up, featuring buy-ins of $100,000+. There is Big One for One Drop ($1,000,000), Aria high rollers, Super High Roller Bowl ($300,000), and many more.
'Every conscious act requires risk,' states Caro. 'Every conscious act requires decision. You put those two facts together and you realize that the secret to success in life is not to avoid gambling, but to gamble well.'
Today I'd like to discuss not poker strategy per se, but a few of the things I have learned from poker about how to live life better — namely, how to 'gamble well' with decisions outside of poker.
1. You can't know what you can't know
Pardon the tautology, but I couldn't think of a more pithy way of encapsulating the idea. My point is not to beat yourself up over decisions that didn't turn out well because of information that you didn't have, and couldn't have had, at the time you made them.
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You probably know the poker term 'rabbit hunt.' It's when a player asks after the hand is over to see what cards would have come. I've recently been playing in a weekly home game where this request is made with a frequency I've never encountered before — maybe a third of all hands. The players see what cards would have come had the hand continued, then drive themselves crazy with regret, with 'woulda-coulda-shoulda' thinking.
I have never asked to rabbit hunt, and can't imagine that I ever will. Learning what cards would have come is not just useless, it's worse than useless. When you see that your gutshot straight draw would have hit, it makes you wish that you had called instead of folding, even though folding was the correct decision. The almost inevitable result is that you'll be more likely to call incorrectly the next time a similar situation arises.
Life presents us with countless opportunities to torture ourselves for a past decision in light of information that only became available later. Should you have bought that Apple stock in 1984? The answer depends not on what actually happened to the stock subsequently, but what one's best analysis of its prospects were at the time — which most people thought were not good.
This sort of thing happens to us constantly. You get into the shortest checkout line at the grocery store, but the only person ahead of you ends up with the world's longest transaction, with every complication and delay possible, while the other lines move quickly. You buy a new car, one highly related for reliability by independent sources, but it turns out to be the rare lemon, with hidden defects you could not have discovered. And so on.
I suppose it's natural to wish one had chosen differently in such situations. But give yourself a break. You're not clairvoyant and never will be, so don't blame yourself for not making a decision based on information that was unavailable.
2. Don't take things personally
Phrased another way: It's not about you.
The dealer didn't declare a misdeal after giving you two aces because he's out to screw you. Things just go wrong sometimes. The guy to your left didn't call your pre-flop raise with and flop trips because he hates you. Yes, of course he's trying to win your chips, but he's also trying to win everybody else's — just like you are.
Even when something in poker seems like it's directed at you personally, often it really isn't. Maybe you're the guy who took a flier with , caught a lucky board, and are now at the receiving end of a verbal tirade from the guy you felted when he couldn't let go of his pocket aces. It's not really about you — he doesn't know you well enough to actually dislike you. He's really upset about his bad luck, or his own inability to sniff out the trap you set, or maybe the fact that he just got fired from his job and can't really afford to lose money at poker, or how his teenage son is using drugs and he can do nothing about it. You're just the most convenient target of his inchoate rage at the moment.
So it is in the broader world. Somebody darts into your lane on the highway, forcing you to brake suddenly. It feels personal, doesn't it? It's as if he has selected you out of the thousands of other drivers he could inconvenience and endanger, as if he were a bully kicking sand in your face at the beach because he sees that you're a 98-pound weakling. And you've got to retaliate, to defend your honor and your right to your place on the road, right?
No. He's a jerk, or maybe an inattentive or drunk driver, but his actions are not about you personally. In fact, maybe his actions have a reasonable motivation that would arouse your sympathy if you knew about it.
You can choose to take this driver's action personally and react with anger — but know that it is a choice, and that you could choose differently. You could instead choose to react with indifference, or even compassion. That part of the situation really is all about you.
3. Probabilities are real things, not abstractions
Suppose you're contemplating getting laser eye surgery, hoping that you can dispense with wearing glasses. Instead of automatically signing the long, detailed consent form without reading it, you take it home and study it. You find that it says that the risk of a serious adverse outcome on your vision is 1%. (I'm making up this number. Don't take it as an actual medical fact.) That's small enough to dismiss — a negligible risk, right?
Well, let's stop and think about it. A one-outer on the river in hold'em is about a 2% event, but how many times have you seen it happen? A lot, right? Sure, it's not every day, but it occurs often enough that something in that same ballpark of frequency should perhaps give you pause.
Of course, the probability of a bad outcome is not the only factor to consider. You also have to take into account just how bad that outcome is. If it's the loss of one buy-in, a 1% risk of loss versus a 99% probability of doubling up is obviously about as good gamble as will ever come your way in a poker game. But if 1% of commercial jets crashed, killing everybody aboard, nobody would ever fly, because we would all deem that risk way too high. Loss of or damage to your vision would obviously fall somewhere in between.
Plus, you have to consider the upside. If the risk of a serious adverse effect of general anesthesia were 1% (again, not to be taken as a real number), you might not want to take it for a purely cosmetic nose job. But for a life-saving appendectomy or removal of a cancerous tumor? Yeah, sign on the dotted line in a heartbeat.
Years of playing poker has taught me to think more concretely about seemingly abstract probabilities, and how to weigh better real-world risks and rewards.
Conclusion
Mike Caro recently posted on his website an article he wrote some time ago for Card Player magazine. In it he opines that everything we do in life is a gamble of sorts.
Cause poker does not guarantee you the money like your job does. But if that's what you really want then you need to work for this to happen as well. Playing poker for living is easier to be said. Poker for a living and staking. Over the recent years, there's been more and more high roller tournaments popping up, featuring buy-ins of $100,000+. There is Big One for One Drop ($1,000,000), Aria high rollers, Super High Roller Bowl ($300,000), and many more.
'Every conscious act requires risk,' states Caro. 'Every conscious act requires decision. You put those two facts together and you realize that the secret to success in life is not to avoid gambling, but to gamble well.'
Today I'd like to discuss not poker strategy per se, but a few of the things I have learned from poker about how to live life better — namely, how to 'gamble well' with decisions outside of poker.
1. You can't know what you can't know
Pardon the tautology, but I couldn't think of a more pithy way of encapsulating the idea. My point is not to beat yourself up over decisions that didn't turn out well because of information that you didn't have, and couldn't have had, at the time you made them.
Ny casino cruise. Casino Cruise Lines in New York on YP.com. See reviews, photos, directions, phone numbers and more for the best Cruises in New York, NY. Considering this boat is berthed at Freeport,long Island,NY,I would only consider it as a day trip to do something diifferent. The food was prepared some where else and reheated,think Lunch truck. The casino was so tight,that on our return part of the voyage to nowhere,the casino decks were virtually empty. Staff was great, and really tried to. Reviews on Casino Cruise in Manhattan, NY - Aqua Azul Yacht (5/5), Norwegian Gem (3.4/5), Norwegian Cruise Line (2.8/5), Resorts World Casino New York City (2.3/5), Norwegian Cruise Lines - The Escape (3.3/5), NY Boat Charter (4.7/5), Carnival Cruise Line (2.6/5), Marco Polo Cruises (2.5/5), Carnival Sunrise (3.8/5), Allen Batista Travel (3.1/5). Reviews on Casino Cruise in New York, NY - Aqua Azul Yacht (5/5), Resorts World Casino New York City (2.3/5), Norwegian Gem (3.4/5), NY Boat Charter (4.7/5), Empire City Casino (2.5/5), Norwegian Cruise Line (2.8/5), Norwegian Cruise Lines - The Escape (3.3/5), Marco Polo Cruises (2.5/5), Royal Caribbean (2.7/5), Cape Liberty Cruise Port (3.3/5).
You probably know the poker term 'rabbit hunt.' It's when a player asks after the hand is over to see what cards would have come. I've recently been playing in a weekly home game where this request is made with a frequency I've never encountered before — maybe a third of all hands. The players see what cards would have come had the hand continued, then drive themselves crazy with regret, with 'woulda-coulda-shoulda' thinking.
I have never asked to rabbit hunt, and can't imagine that I ever will. Learning what cards would have come is not just useless, it's worse than useless. When you see that your gutshot straight draw would have hit, it makes you wish that you had called instead of folding, even though folding was the correct decision. The almost inevitable result is that you'll be more likely to call incorrectly the next time a similar situation arises.
Life presents us with countless opportunities to torture ourselves for a past decision in light of information that only became available later. Should you have bought that Apple stock in 1984? The answer depends not on what actually happened to the stock subsequently, but what one's best analysis of its prospects were at the time — which most people thought were not good.
This sort of thing happens to us constantly. You get into the shortest checkout line at the grocery store, but the only person ahead of you ends up with the world's longest transaction, with every complication and delay possible, while the other lines move quickly. You buy a new car, one highly related for reliability by independent sources, but it turns out to be the rare lemon, with hidden defects you could not have discovered. And so on.
I suppose it's natural to wish one had chosen differently in such situations. But give yourself a break. You're not clairvoyant and never will be, so don't blame yourself for not making a decision based on information that was unavailable.
2. Don't take things personally
Phrased another way: It's not about you.
The dealer didn't declare a misdeal after giving you two aces because he's out to screw you. Things just go wrong sometimes. The guy to your left didn't call your pre-flop raise with and flop trips because he hates you. Yes, of course he's trying to win your chips, but he's also trying to win everybody else's — just like you are.
Even when something in poker seems like it's directed at you personally, often it really isn't. Maybe you're the guy who took a flier with , caught a lucky board, and are now at the receiving end of a verbal tirade from the guy you felted when he couldn't let go of his pocket aces. It's not really about you — he doesn't know you well enough to actually dislike you. He's really upset about his bad luck, or his own inability to sniff out the trap you set, or maybe the fact that he just got fired from his job and can't really afford to lose money at poker, or how his teenage son is using drugs and he can do nothing about it. You're just the most convenient target of his inchoate rage at the moment.
So it is in the broader world. Somebody darts into your lane on the highway, forcing you to brake suddenly. It feels personal, doesn't it? It's as if he has selected you out of the thousands of other drivers he could inconvenience and endanger, as if he were a bully kicking sand in your face at the beach because he sees that you're a 98-pound weakling. And you've got to retaliate, to defend your honor and your right to your place on the road, right?
No. He's a jerk, or maybe an inattentive or drunk driver, but his actions are not about you personally. In fact, maybe his actions have a reasonable motivation that would arouse your sympathy if you knew about it.
You can choose to take this driver's action personally and react with anger — but know that it is a choice, and that you could choose differently. You could instead choose to react with indifference, or even compassion. That part of the situation really is all about you.
3. Probabilities are real things, not abstractions
Suppose you're contemplating getting laser eye surgery, hoping that you can dispense with wearing glasses. Instead of automatically signing the long, detailed consent form without reading it, you take it home and study it. You find that it says that the risk of a serious adverse outcome on your vision is 1%. (I'm making up this number. Don't take it as an actual medical fact.) That's small enough to dismiss — a negligible risk, right?
Well, let's stop and think about it. A one-outer on the river in hold'em is about a 2% event, but how many times have you seen it happen? A lot, right? Sure, it's not every day, but it occurs often enough that something in that same ballpark of frequency should perhaps give you pause.
Of course, the probability of a bad outcome is not the only factor to consider. You also have to take into account just how bad that outcome is. If it's the loss of one buy-in, a 1% risk of loss versus a 99% probability of doubling up is obviously about as good gamble as will ever come your way in a poker game. But if 1% of commercial jets crashed, killing everybody aboard, nobody would ever fly, because we would all deem that risk way too high. Loss of or damage to your vision would obviously fall somewhere in between.
Plus, you have to consider the upside. If the risk of a serious adverse effect of general anesthesia were 1% (again, not to be taken as a real number), you might not want to take it for a purely cosmetic nose job. But for a life-saving appendectomy or removal of a cancerous tumor? Yeah, sign on the dotted line in a heartbeat.
Years of playing poker has taught me to think more concretely about seemingly abstract probabilities, and how to weigh better real-world risks and rewards.
Conclusion
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One of my favorite devices in these articles for PokerNews is to take something I've read or experienced recently and find a way to learn from it something about poker. But the process works the other way, too — things you learn from playing poker can teach you about how to think and act outside of the poker room.
Life's a gamble. Make it a good one.
Robert Woolley lives in Asheville, NC. He spent several years in Las Vegas and chronicled his life in poker on the 'Poker Grump' blog.
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Most people consider poker a form of gambling. Gambling is the process of placing a bet or bets on an uncertain outcome in hopes of certain things happening that pay you a reward. But most formsof gambling are designed with odds that slowly drain your money.
While poker somewhat matches the description above, the fact is that some players are able to play in a way that creates a long-term profit. If you play slot machines, sometimes you win, andsometimes you lose, but in the long run, the machine is designed to make a profit for the casino.
But poker is a game where you can learn how to play well enough to show a long-term profit. It's not easy, but it's possible. This is because the casino or poker room takes a small percentage ofeach pot for their profit instead of stacking the odds against you.
This means that if you build your skills better than most of your opponents, you can win more than you pay in rake, creating a profit.
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But most poker players play the game just like they play slot machines. They put their money in and hope for the best, instead of using a proper strategy based on math.
They make plays while hoping that their hand holds up or improves, but they ignore the facts. Winning players, however, make every decision based on facts and long-term expectation, and nevergamble.
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The next time you're trying to draw to an inside straight, think about whether it's a profitable long-term situation. If you don't know how to do this, you're going to learn in the next section.
Everything you do while playing poker is either profitable or not. You don't always know everything you need to know to determine profitability in every situation, but with practice andknowledge, you can reach a point where you make more profitable plays than unprofitable ones.
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Once you reach this point, you're going to start winning more than you lose.
